n the society nowadays, there is this sudden surge in the level of marriage breakups. It looks like everybody just wants to propose, take pre-wedding pictures, have a lavish weddin ceremony, go for honeymoon and then break it all up right after maybe, one or two years of marriage.
A breakup doesn't just happen in a marriage though, there are always signs to look out for, symptoms of a breakup.
Below are seven big warning signs that your marriage is about to end;
1. Halting Intimacy :- When you stop initiating
intimacy with your partner, when you'd rather do house chores or any
other stuff than get cuddling, touching and all that with your partner,
this is a likely sign that your marriage might be about to crash. In any
marriage, there should always be this feeling of want, and maybe, lust
between couples. Intimacy helps keep a relationship alive because
there's always this bond attached when couples get intimate.
2. Getting Secretive :- Doing things behind your
partner's back, deliberately keeping secrets from your partner is
another sign your marriage might be about to end. In any
relationship/marriage, there should be a level of individual space that
is needed for growth but once you start hiding things from your partner,
sending secret text messages or maybe starting to use a password on
your mobile are all signs that you want to hide something from your
partner and it makes trust waver
3. Repeating Arguments :- Fighting and quarrelling
with your spouse over the same thing every now and then is another
sign. When you both get into fights constantly without trying to make
amends or put an end to the cause of the argument, it makes arguments go
on and on and probably stretch deep into other things. You should
always endeavour to kill any argument immediately and avoid getting
physical.
4. Not Caring About Your Appearance :- In a
marriage,when you stop caring about what your partner thinks on your
appearance, when you neither give a crawling fu*k nor a flying one about
your partner's opinion on how you look, It is another warning sign that
your marriage has issues. Not making your hair, not trying to look nice
for your partner,acting lazy and sloppy, maybe even going to bed in
clothes you use for house chores and not caring what your partner might
think are all signs of a marriage that is about to crash.
5. Getting Abusive and Offensive :- Your wife does
something to annoy you, you send her home on an insult errand to her
great grandfathers. Your husband does something to piss you off, you
start to call names and insult his mother and all of his ancestors. You
both bring up past issues to berate each other whenever an argument
surfaces. One simple complaint and you are both flaring up, ready to
tear each other up. These are all signs that a marriage has problems and
it is likely to crash. No matter the argument,never get verbally or
physically abusive in your marriage.
6. Refusing To Tackle Issues Head-on :-
Apparently, you don't like your new job, it sucks, but you'd rather be
at it than go home to your wife because you are trying to avoid her. You
don't have much interest in alcohol and clubbing so you try to avoid
your friend's company but lately, you'd rather be with your friends
drinking and clubbing than go home to your wife. Your boring job is
suddenly not so boring anymore and your friends have suddenly become
more important to you than your spouse. These are all signs that you are
refusing to tackle and resolve whatever problem you have in your
marriage. You are trying to bail out the easy way and this doesn't bode
well for your marriage.
7. Infidelity:- No doubt, infidelity is considered
to be the chief destroyer of marriages nowadays. It has the ability to
destroy marriages because it dissolves the one important foundation of
any marriage, which is trust. Infidelity doesn't necessarily have to be
physical, it could be emotional. When you start imagining and
fantasizing about that hot colleague at work or maybe an Ex you met back
recently, it is also a form of cheating.
When you derive more satisfaction from immersing yourself in
fantasyland with that colleague at work or that ex you just met back
than spending quality time with your spouse, it's a sign that something
deep is wrong with your marriage. Not all spouses forgive infidelity
though so avoid going physical with cheating. Maybe it could be worked
out but most times, trust is never regained.
These are all clear signs that your marriage is having issues that
will likely lead to a breakup. You should see a marriage counsellor and
work on whatever issues you might be having with your spouse.
Wish you all the best in your marriages!
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